Define Yourself, Definition of Your Life !!!

When it comes to stress, illness and wellness, it is important to remember that what goes on in your mind is reflected in your body. People who continually worry and get stressed about their problems tend to develop tense muscles, become tired easily or get headaches. When their mind is stressed, their body becomes stressed too. Dwelling on your mistakes and over-analyzing what could go wrong or what you could have done differently only drains your energy and distracts you from what you have to do. Worrying only uses up energy and doesn’t really help your situation. Like acid, worry will just eat you away if you let it into your life each day. There are endless things you can worry about…service, safety, health, future, etc. But let’s face it: • Worry doesn’t change the situation • Worry won’t help time move any quicker • Worry won’t help you with your service • Worry just doesn’t help in any way… So don’t do it!

Many a times we find an excuse for our failure, we blame the society, unfair treatment, injustice etc. Resentment or bitterness is an attempt to make our own failure palatable. However, resentment is worse than a disease. It is a deadly poison which makes happiness impossible and drains tremendous amount of energy. Resentment is also a “way” of making us feel important. Many people get a perverse satisfaction from the feeling “wronged.”  It is an illusion whereby a person thinks, if he can feel resentful / bitter enough, and thereby “prove” the injustice, some magical process will undo the event of circumstances which caused resentment. Resentment is a mental resistance to or non-acceptance of something which has already happened. Resentment is an emotional re-fighting of some event in the past. You cannot win, because you are attempting to do the impossible – change the past. Resentment, even when based upon real injustice and wrongs, is not the way to win. It soon

Most of Our Failures in Human Relations are due to “misunderstandings”. We expect other people to react and respond and come to the same conclusions as we do from a given set of “facts” or “circumstances.” No one responds or reacts to “things as they are,” but to his own mental images.  Most of the time, a person “understands” and interprets the situation differently from us. He is merely responding appropriately to what – to him – seems to be the truth about the situation. Ask yourself: “How does this appear to him?” “How does he interpret this situation?” “How does he feel about it?” Try to understand why he might “act the way he does” In dealing with other people try to see the situation from their point of view as well as your own.